A special kind of therapy

Feels good to finally share to finally vent out every thought that burdened my soul.

To let it out through words. To literally rip out every thought that hurts from my soul and engrave it on a page.

To bleed not red with blood but black with ink. It doesn’t make the pain any less but it does help to see my thoughts as clear as day

To be able to clean out the dirt the very evil that threatens to wreck my being.

I’m grateful for those who invented writing because writing is a special kind of therapy. Lets you launch your missiles and fire your guns safely

Its simply magnificent.

I can shake off anything as I write

my sorrows disappear

my courage reborn



Lost friendships

One of the harshest things you come to terms with in life is that you can’t and never will be able to change people. No matter how nice you are to them they’ll just treat like they want to because its just who they are.

Funny thing about this realization is that its one of those things we know at the back of our minds. You know like one of those gut instincts you feel but keep ignoring or the little voice in your head that tells you “Run fake friend approaching!” Five stars for anyone who listens to this voice because i don’t and so do many other people.

The first time you finally notice that the ‘little voice’ was right, it will come like a shock. You’ll been sad and angry because your friend turned out to be a phoney. You’ll be hurt nit on the same level of heartbreak as a foiled romantic relationship but still this person was your friend or even worse your best friend.

So after you cry(or did whatever you do when you are hurt) you might forgive this person if you feel the mistake wasn’t that big or because you don’t want to loose a friend. You’ll let them in slowly cautiously at first then with time a sense of normalcy will return. You’ll lie to yourself that managed to change them but your gut will be the wiser.

Then your dear friend will hurt you again. You’ll be hurt of course. Only this time you wont even be surprised in fact your gut will tell you i told you so.

This wont make it any easier. It will still hurt like the first time maybe worse or less. Cry again if you must but don’t you dare play the victim card because you were the one who gave the chance this time.

Rise from the ashes. Better people will come your way. You are a beautiful soul a force to reckon with. If you had the strength and courage to give them a second chance when they didn’t deserve it then you have a heart of pure gold.

By all means forgive them again and again. Its good for your soul and your health. You don’t really want to walk around holding grudges. Life is already hard by itself you definitely don’t want extra baggage. This time when you forgive them don’t allow back in.

You owe it to yourself to be happy. You deserve better than that. You deserve the best people in the world. People who will be there for you always people who will show up for you and those who will value you and your company. Because guess what you are worth more than rubies.

Listen your instincts because deep down you know the truth.

“It is well with my soul”

My fate is sealed with Christ My name engraved on the hands of God I’m destined for greatness I know I’ll probably sweat blood The hardships they’ll be worth it It doesn’t matter what any man or woman thinks One day we are all gonna die And most people rot or be cremated Doesn’t matter the fate is still the same That day all their taunts and unbelief will fade away I’ll have left an amazing legacy The only part that they’ll have in it Is that when I felt I couldn’t dream any longer I just remembered their faces And told myself that I’m gonna prove them wrong Its a cold gloomy era of my history I’m still at twilight the night seems long But I know I’ll break the dawn The sun will shine brightly thus It is well with my soul

Perfect Imperfection

The pursuit of perfection ruins creativity and robs you of joy.

Perfect. That’s not me.

The only perfect person I know is God but even He loves us unconditionally regardless of our flaws.

Everyday I endeavour to love people for who they are without trying to fix them because that’s not my job.

However I do realise that I can only do that when i fully embrace the person that I am and love myself just as I am

I realise that I can only love myself when I accept the fact that life is not a competition. That everyone is on their own lane and I cant compare my life with anyone else’s to see who is ‘winning’ at the game called life.

I have to live life on my terms and let others do the same. In any case we were all born free. As Nelson Mandela puts it,” For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains but to live in such a way that enhances the freedom of others”




What do you tell yourself first thing in the morning when you wake up?

Do you tell yourself that you are worthless or that you can’t make it in life?

If you tell yourself this then know that you are the very thing that is hindering your achievement of success in your every day life.

If you want to change your life for the better then you have to change what you tell yourself. When you wake up in the morning tell yourself this:

  1. I am courageous
  2. I am blessed
  3. I am highly favoured
  4. I am forgiven
  5. I am beloved of God
  6. I am more precious than jewels
  7. I am beautiful
  8. I am creative
  9. I am intelligent
  10. I am destined for greatness
  11. I am prosperous
  12. I am more than a conqueror
  13. I am happy
  14. I am a masterpiece
  15. I can and I will

Remember whether you think you can or cannot you are right so change the way you speak to yourself

My Voice

I honour my voice because my opinion ,Cheryl’s opinion, is valid

The words that come out of my mouth may either be quick,witty,wrong,funny,inappropriate,kind,loving,hurtful but they are still my words.

The words from the depths of my soul or the back of my brain or at times the tip of my tongue.

Its my opinion its valid so don’t ignore me

Don’t push me away like am a empty devoid of a soul in which feelings reside

I for one don’t ignore you

I listen to you

Then listen to me please

I honour my voice because my opinion is valid

13 Thoughts on a Sunday

Originally i wanted to write one of those “20 things you should do before you are 20” posts but i deviated from the plan and wrote this instead

  1. Make true friendships that will last a lifetime.
  2. Make a budget and stick to it.
  3. Stand up for yourself even when you are terrified at the prospect.
  4. Have a good laugh every once in a while.
  5. Rewrite the narrative in your subconscious mind to be positive and in line with the kind of life you want and the dreams you want to achieve.
  6. Be responsible for every aspect of your life.
  7. Stop trying to change people that’s not part of job description in life.
  8. Know yourself and love yourself because you are worthy
  9. Invest in yourself through books podcasts classes and hobbies so you can grow into the person you want to become.
  10. Own your faith. Its yours and nobody else’s for that matter.
  11. Follow your heart and intuition they already know where you are going. (Steve jobs)
  12. Be yourself because your amazing just the way you are.
  13. Finally learn to mind your own business or else everyone is gonna be like